A well thought out family care plan is detailed, and spelled out, and it makes allowances for various types of military service, but most of all it provides for the security and safety of family members. Entering the service is also a choice that many Servicemembers make as a single parent because of the excellent pay, benefits and support that parents can access as American military Servicemembers.
Is Family Support Enough?
Knowing how to access support and to find answers as a single parent can make all the difference. One thing vital to remember as a family, and as a military parent, is to have a plan. The Servicemember that is a parent and becomes a single parent while on reserve or Active duty service should make sure that they have an effective, well thought out family care plan. Sometimes your family can be together at a duty station, at other times your children will have to stay with a family member while you are on deployment. It spells out in detail the wishes of the service member. While there are a number of programs that give support for single Military parents in the Armed Forces, there are also rules that apply for Servicemember parents that are called into the field on deployment.
When joining the service single parents must make arrangements and give custody of their children to someone else. Working to serve in the United States Military is an excellent career for many people. A person can learn a trade, or a valuable skill, and the pay, allotments and other benefits allow you to support your family well. But sometimes for a variety of reasons a Servicemember will suddenly find themselves raising a child or a number of children as a single parent. Having an effective and workable care plan makes all the difference, and offers a sense of security for family members while the Servicemember is on deployment. A number of single parents join the Service because of the different support family services that the military has to help parents that are single and raising a family. The policies regarding single parenthood vary from service to service.
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This is to protect the children in case the Servicemember is injured or killed on the battlefield. But there are often situations where Servicemembers on long term Active duty can have their children with them, in either base housing or military supplied off base housing.
I am 3mos pregnant and found out I my get deployed with in the next year and i dont want the father of my child to get custody what can i do to resovle this also we are not married. Please help
Tracy, unfortunately if the father wants to keep your child while deployed, unless you can prove him to be an unfit parent, he will get to take care of the baby during your deployment. I suggest that you file for custody as soon as your child is born. If you don’t file for custody, he may be able to do that while you’re gone. Like I said, unless he is an unfit person, you will just have to let go, and give him a chance to be a parent while you’re deployed.
You may consider, if you are determined not to allow the father to have custody, that you leave his name off of the birth certificate, and choose and legally appoint someone else to care for your child. You may also consider that the first weeks and months of a child’s life are key to establishing a strong bond between mother and baby. Much love and good luck.
C. Reyes says
An active duty Marine going through divorce and having custody of his young child. There is no family support system. He’s been told he may be deployed within the year. He is out in the field for weeks at a time. What choices does he have?
I’m 19 years old and want to go to tharmy but has found out I’m pregnant my mother father an the father of the child wants me to have a adoration but I don’t want to nor believe dat is right to do is there anything I can do so that I may have my baby and still be able to got to da army
Being in the military is hard add to that being a single parent and people look at you as though your not up to the task. I have been trying to get my base to start some thing for single parents but they simply talk about support groups. This only meets some of the need. What about ways that dont add to the stress?
Elizabeth Everett says
I’m 23 years old with a two year old son and I want to join the military without fully giving my up son. I want to provide a good life for him since my divorce. What branch would be best for me and my son?